We hang on to whatever justifies our mediocrity, but a life dressed in excuses is embarrassing.
One of our strongest human drives is self-preservation, and it can manifest in our will to stay alive, or it can even manifest in our ability to create excuses.
Either way, the goal is to protect and preserve ourselves.
An excuse is an attempt to get others to overlook whatever we believe is a fault on our part. So, if we’re not living up to what we say, we make excuses. If things are a wreck all around us, we make excuses.
And if we’ve settled for what we have, or who we are, we also make excuses.
- We say it’s what happened to us.
- We say it’s our circumstances.
- We say it’s our age, race, or gender.
- We say it’s our lack of resources.
- We say it’s because of an ailment.
No matter what it is we point to, these are excuses—they are attempts to get others AND OURSELVES to overlook our faults.
Making Excuses to Ourselves
That last point is an important one, and that is that we have to make excuses for ourselves. But why would we do that? Why would we try to lie to ourselves?
It’s because of our nagging conscience. We can deceive others, but it’s harder to delude ourselves unless we exaggerate those excuses in our own minds and convince ourselves that our failures are not our fault.
But what would happen if we did the opposite? What would happen if we decided NOT to try and protect ourselves with excuses? What if instead, we said, “You know what? I’m not living up to my potential, but I can change that.”
In other words, you don’t have to protect yourself, because no one is out to get you or find blame. They have their own lives to worry about, so your concern about how others think about you is more in your own mind than in reality.
I promise you it’s a liberating feeling to not have to defend yourself. It’s a liberating feeling to not have to dress up in excuses every day.
It’s also easier to go to sleep at night when you know your conscience is clear.
This doesn’t mean anything has changed in you. You still have to create results, but at least you’re not hindered by self-preservation and the need to make excuses.
The Battle is in the Mind
As I say often, the battle to win is the battle of the mind, and the thing to master is the mastery of your mind. Our thoughts govern every aspect of our lives from how we feel to what we create.
If you want to truly transform your life in every way possible, you have to learn how to master your mind. I can’t emphasize this enough.
The biggest advantage I had when I became an adult was being exposed to inspirational and motivational teaching and teachers that helped to show me the importance and methods of mastering my mind.
I read the books. I listened to hundreds of hours of teaching, lectures, and sermons. I took in anything I could to help create the mindset I needed to maximize my life.
I still own all that material. I’ve even got boxes of cassette tapes from back in the day.
The Biggest Mistake I See People Making
The biggest problem I see in people that follow Metal Motivation is that they’re only trying to do one of two things:
- They’re looking for just enough inspiration to survive another bad day.
- They’re looking for just enough inspiration to keep tolerating a life they don’t like.
This is why they end up in a vicious cycle of feeling motivated and then crashing again. It’s because they miss an essential truth which is that the only way to real achievement and lasting change is to commit to personal development.
What’s personal development? It’s a daily, systematic method of self-improvement, and it can be sophisticated or simple, but that who create the life they want only do so by personal development.
Some read and meditate every day. Some have a coach. Others have their own methods. Either way, without a daily routine of personal development you can only expect that the future will resemble the past. Why?
It’s because nothing is changing in your daily routine which means you’ll get the same outcomes because you’re giving the same inputs.
You Must Invest in Yourself
That’s why I created my Life Domination Online Coaching Group, and since 2015, I’ve seen dozens and dozens of lives changed. I know it works. I know a daily commitment to improving our thinking and create new habits will produce a different future.
When I started out, it was long before the internet, and the tools and resources were not as abundant as they are now. Therefore, there is just no excuse for not living the life we want. It comes to our willingness to commit to daily personal development and doing the work.
You don’t have to be stuck in a rut. You don’t have to feel like your life is out of control. You don’t have to just bide your time until you’re buried. You can still live the life you want to live or some version of it, but you must be willing to invest in yourself.
So, turn off the TV, unplug from too much social media, and get busy feeding your mind with information that empowers and equips you for radical and rapid change. I have an excellent downloadable audio series called Mastering Your Mind which is a great example. Listen to free audio samples here.
You’ve only got one life to live, and the clock is ticking on that only life you’ve got, so start taking action today. Commit to personal development!