About 29 years ago, I was struggling to survive. I was 22 years-old with a wife and two babies, and I did not have any marketable skills or experience to get a good job. Every job I had in those days was on the low end.
However, what I did have in those days was faith, ambition, and a hunger for personal development (that’s self-improvement, or personal growth, if you didn’t already know). Despite my circumstances, my heart was on fire for something better!
During those days, I worked in a small mattress factory running a huge industrial sewing machine. All I had to do was feed it with fabric and monitor the decorative pattern it created in the mattress material. If any of the bobbins ran out of thread, I had to stop the machine and change the bobbin. Exciting, eh?
Well, to pass the time—and survive the monotony—I would talk to myself or pray. But more than that, I wasn’t just hoping for a better life. I was trying to reprogram myself for success. And I also already knew what I wanted to do professionally. I wanted to be a speaker.
In order to reprogram myself, I would listen to motivational speakers and inspirational preachers, but then I would also speak to myself.
Now, when I say that I would speak to myself, I didn’t just “mutter.” I got into it. I’d move my arms. My face would articulate the words as if I were yelling them out loud, even though barely any sound was coming out. From a distance, I looked crazy.
One day, as I was talking to myself, I got the feeling someone was watching me, so I turned to my right and there stood my supervisor pointing and laughing at me. He mocked me by imitating what I was doing.
I was embarrassed to say the least, but then I thought, “Embarrassment is a small price to pay for success,” so I just threw up my arms in victory so as to say, “That’s right, man! I’m working on myself!”
Still Talking to Myself
Almost 30 years later, I still talk to myself—a lot! If you were to watch me from afar, you’d see my lips moving but barely any sound coming out of my mouth, but if I am by myself, I do speak out loud.
For instance, I just spent several hours doing this on my recent flights to and from Texas, but in the era of blue tooth headsets and iPhone headphones, nobody pays much attention to someone who appears to be talking to his or herself.
Why am I mentioning this?
I wrote you recently about “self-talk,” and I want you to know that I definitely practice what I preach. For me, self-talk is far more than something going on just in my head. It’s something I practice out loud.
Why do I do this? A few reasons…
First, it’s the best way to immediately take full control of my thoughts. Nothing works better. Our thoughts will follow the direction of our words whether good or bad, so I try be intentional about directing my thoughts.
Second, talking to myself out loud—or muttering under my breath—is how I really get certain ideas deep down into my inner-man. Some people call this our “subconscious.” Use whatever term you like, but your most powerful beliefs are those that come from deep within, and what we say to ourselves most of the time will either reinforce existing beliefs or help to create new ones.
Third, by speaking to myself constantly I’m reinforcing the belief and practice that a successful life is an intentional life. This is important because most of us run on auto pilot. As we go about our day, we let our minds drift, and that is NOT intentional living.
In other words, if you’re waiting for things to happen, or for circumstances to come together for you, then nothing will change. Change happens when you become intentional about it. By speaking out loud, I’m demonstrating that I’m active in creating the life I want.
Lastly, by speaking to myself, I can learn to release creative power, and this happens when I say things with emotion.
In other words, I need to put some energy behind my words. I need to feel what I’m saying. Even though what I’m saying may not be a reality in my life right now, I need to keep saying it with emotion.
If I keep saying to myself that “I will succeed no matter what,” then I’ll start to have moments where I truly believe it, and that will activate emotions which will activate the energy or force of faith.
The classic personal development author, Napoleon Hill, once wrote, “Your subconscious mind recognizes and acts only upon thoughts which have been well-mixed with emotion and feeling,” and, “Thoughts which are mixed with any of the feeling of emotions constitute a ‘magnetic’ force which attracts other similar or related thoughts.”
Speaking out loud is how you create emotion, and that will reinforce your powerful beliefs which creates a compounding effect that cannot be stopped.
THAT is why I’m still doing it after 30 years!
This is what I’m covering in this week’s 5-message video series in my Life Domination Online Coaching Group entitled Motorbreath: Driving Your Life with Power Words. As always, I show the first episode of each series for FREE right here on my website. Watch Episode 1 now:
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