Self-help gurus love the word destiny, and they love to persuade you into thinking that they can actually help you discover it. I see these type of promises all the time. And how exactly are they going to find someone’s destiny? Do you even know what the word means?

Destiny: events that will necessarily happen in the future; a predetermined course of events.

How does any guru know what your predetermined future is supposed to be? He or she doesn’t. They would have to be something akin to a god to know such a thing, but that doesn’t appear to stop them from making such bold claims.

Destination: The Place YOU Choose to Go

I don’t speak of destiny, because I don’t know a thing about your future, and I don’t need to know it—neither do you. It really doesn’t matter. It only leads to fatalism, which is a major killer of human potential.

I don’t speak of destiny, but I will talk a great deal about destination. There’s a huge difference. A destination is simply a place that YOU’VE decided to go, and that’s the point. YOU make the choice about what your future will look like, and YOU decide how far you will go with your gifts, talents, abilities, and resources.

People often say, “I don’t know what I’m SUPPOSED to do with my life.” There may be several options, but thinking this way will block your ability to ask the right questions. What’s the right question? How about, “What’s the best destination for me in light of who I am, what I can do, what I have, and what my interests are?”


There’s Only Power in Decision

Your future truly is an open book, so if you’re thinking in terms of destiny instead of destination, you’ll be in a passive position awaiting some sign to point you in the way to go. If you think in terms of destination, then you’ll feel the power of decision pushing you to consider your options. After that, you’ll make your choice and be on your way!

There’s no power in destiny because it’s passive. The only way to releasing personal power is when YOU’RE empowered with responsibility and authority, and the only way to do that is place yourself on the executive board of your own life and decide where it is you want to go. After that, we can talk about the best options and how to get there.

The point is that YOU must make the call, so that means YOU are responsible. That might seem scary, but believe me, it’s a hell of a lot better than waiting on a prophet or soothsayer to come and reveal to you your hidden destiny. Metal up!


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C. J. Ortiz
C. J. Ortiz

My mission is to help equip people to maximize their resources for a purpose greater than themselves. That's what my own mentors and teachers have done for me, and I'm paying it forward. Life can be merciless, and the world can be a messed up place, so what's needed is a stronger people that can both endure and overcome in life. My motto is, "In whatever you do, don't suck! Metal up!"

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    2 replies to "Why Search for Your Destiny When You Can Choose Your Destination?"

    • Pouyan

      Righteous sequel to the last two articles.

      This firm, level path, of which you have spoken, is not predetermined, nor it is discovered, but is build one paving stone at a time through the best decision that one can make in the light of his/her soundest perception of reality at the given moment.

      Is that a sensible understanding?

    • C. J. - The Metal Motivator

      Basically, yes. The firm, level path is when we head in a direction that best fulfills our interests, desires, and abilities while using proven principles to reach our destination. This practical process can be hindered by thinking there’s a fate you can’t escape, or a destiny you must first discover before you launch out.

      Granted, there may be a destiny. There may be a predestined purpose to your life. But, who knows? That would be guesswork and not dependable. In other words, people can believe these things, but they shouldn’t act, or not act, in terms of them.

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