Have you ever seen those “Feed the Children” infomercials where sad music is played to slow-moving footage of hungry children in other countries? Do you typically sit and watch them, or do you change the channel? If children don’t move you, then what about abused animals? I bet you don’t watch those!
We avoid these TV ads because they have an immediate affect on our emotions, and we know we’ll be more likely to donate money in support of the cause. Most of us tend to operate by the principle “out of sight, out of mind.” If you don’t consider it, you won’t be tempted to take action.
You’re Damn Right the Truth Hurts, and That’s a Good Thing!
It’s been said that “the truth hurts,” and one of the reasons why is because we all live in a false reality. We all live in a measure of denial so that we’re not routinely bogged down with a depressing awareness of the way things truly are. Those that do live in such an awareness, drive themselves into a perpetual state of anxiety or depression.
But, we still need a healthy dose of reality, if we’re going to change those areas that need changing. The more we see and understand the reality of how much money we’re spending; how much time we’re wasting, or how much crap we’re eating, then the less we’ll continue the bad habits that bring eventual destruction.
The Seven Areas You Better Stop Avoiding
In my opinion, there are seven areas in which we should NOT live in denial:
- Money – Unless you know what you’re spending, you’ll continue to waste your money. Review your bank statements, or write down what you spent—and what you spent it on—for a week, and you’ll be shocked at how much was wasted.
- Relationships – Are you aware of the way you speak to your better half, your children, your co-workers, or your friends? How about asking them sometime?
- Career – Do you think your job is secure? Haven’t seen enough unemployed people to realize you should always be preparing for changes in the economy?
- Health – This one is HUGE! Carrying 50+ pounds of extra weight can kill you. Not having sufficient muscle mass will make mobility near impossible as you get older. Having a weak core will ensure back injuries.
- Emotions – Do you understand how living in a constant state of self-created anxiety is deteriorating your health and causing them that love you to also live with worry? How about your constant pity parties?
- Time – This one hurts once you see just how much of it you’re wasting. Time can never be replaced, and you only have one life to live. Why give so much of it to nonsensical gossiping, channel surfing, or hanging out?
A Simple Way to Face Reality and Then Change It
The more we see reality, the more likely we are to change it. So, for one week, I would suggest you keep track of the money you’re spending; the way you’re using your time; what and how much you’re eating, and then asking the closest people in your life what they think about the way you’re acting.
Once you see, for example, that anything over your daily calorie allowance will add fat to your body, you’ll be more likely to eat less. If your daily allowance is 2,500 calories, and then after writing down what you’ve eaten you see that you’re consuming double, or triple, that amount, you’re going to be shocked. Do you think you’ll consider dieting more than before?
If you see that in seven days you watched 24+ hours of mindless television with nothing to show for it, do you think you’re more likely to cut back on the channel surfing and read a book?
What if your kids tell you, “Dad, we’re a little afraid of you because you’re always mad when you come home.” Are you going to continue being a big ass baby who carries his problems home with him, or are you going to metal up and be a source of love and security to your family?
The truth hurts, but it can also lead to immediate and significant transformation in your life. Don’t run from it. Embrace it. Turn from the bad habits. Become the bad ass that you know you can be.
In the comments below, tell me some of the areas in your life that need a serious reality check.
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