Sometimes you can know your purpose in life but then get stopped in your tracks and never fulfill it. Most people wonder about their purpose, so to actually know your purpose but get hindered from moving forward is truly sad.
Some people know their purpose but feel they don’t deserve it. Some people know their purpose, but they’re afraid of failure. Some people know their purpose, and they get stopped because they feel they could never handle all the responsibility that comes with success.
That’s guilt, fear of failure, and fear of success.
The Danger of Expectations
But there’s another one. It’s false expectation, and it hinders a lot of people.
Have you ever heard of the word “reciprocity?” It means to “exchange things with others for mutual benefit.” That doesn’t sound too scary, right? Well, for some, it is!
Reciprocity is an arrangement for mutual benefit, but when it comes to fulfilling your purpose, there is no arrangement between two parties. You have to fulfill your purpose without expecting anything in return.
If you’re a mother, you have a huge purpose to fulfill for your children, but is that something you hang over their heads? Are you expecting something in return from them for being a mother?
No, you don’t. You give your life as a parent knowing full well those kids could break your heart. This is what fulfilling our purpose in life should be like. It’s a one-sided arrangement with life in which we do what’s best for our lives without expecting anything in return from others.
So why do it? You are to fulfill your purpose for these reasons:
- Because of the rightness of your purpose.
- Because it’s what you’re gifted to do.
- Because it’s the only thing that will truly satisfy you.
You must be driven by the rightness of your purpose which means the reason behind it must be greater than yourself. This is why I define success as:
Maximizing your resources—all that you are and all that you can do—for a purpose higher than yourself.
For example, there’s no way I can do something like Metal Motivation and expect something in return from people. If I have an interest in studying and learning the philosophy of life, and if I have a desire to help people while also having an ability to communicate, then that’s all I need to know in regards to my purpose. People giving back to me has nothing to do with it.
And if I expect something in return, I’m going to be continually disappointed.
You Will Get a Return
However, people do give back. People tell me how much what I do means to them. People join my coaching group. People buy my shirts and merchandise. People do “return the favor,” but they’re not obligated to.
Now, what about your life? What are you going to do when it comes to fulfilling your purpose?
You can’t go into it with any expectations because your responsibility is to answer the call you have on your life. Don’t look to people for affirmation and don’t look to them to do anything for you. They will but don’t place those expectations on them.
And if you’re looking for happiness, that will come as a result of maximizing all that you are and all that you can do.
I realize this may not be a “motivational” message, but it’s the truth. And oftentimes we need something much more than motivation. What we need is to understand the principles that govern real achievement and lasting change and finding and fulfilling our purpose is a huge part of that.
But if you’re a serious student of the philosophy of success, then this is the sort of sophisticated content I regularly discuss in my Life Domination Online Coaching Group, which is why I believe you need to join today. All this week, I’ve been sharing on Purpose and Potential, and if you want, you can take 10 minutes right now to watch the first episode for free: