I’ve always tried to live with a FIRE in my spirit that could be seen in my eyes, and I wanted the words of my mouth to be intentional, powerful, and direct. My objective was to be a flame amongst the dry grass, so I could set others ablaze.
And despite growing up with a youthful appearance—where people don’t take you seriously—I lived in a way that people knew my heart was not the heart of a silly boy. Instead, I lived seriously, so people took me seriously.
Respect is Greater Than Fear
What I learned was that “heart, mind, and mouth” communicate far more than body, status, or wealth. Sure, if you’re wealthy, you’ll have lots of “friends,” but are those friends really friends?
If you’re powerful, people will kiss your ass, but that doesn’t mean they respect you. For me, respect is greater than fear or intimidation. To know that my children respect me is a sacred thing. To know that my children are fearful of me is a failure.
You Are the Only Circumstance That Matters
When I look out over the thousands of people I’ve met over the past several years, the number one thing I see is a lack of heart. People will talk about what they DON’T have (money, relationships, job) as if circumstances control them and not the other way around.
If you have heart, you’re truly powerful. If your mind is strong, you can overcome anything. If your words are pure and wise, you’ll attract the right people into your life. And none of this is the result of wealth, power, or position.
The True Purpose of Self-Improvement
Set your own heart ablaze, strengthen your mind, and set a guard over your mouth, because this is the true purpose of self-improvement. Success is great, money helps, and having position can enable you to have a greater influence, but they all mean nothing without the right heart, a strong mind, and being intentional with your words.
If you’ve never disciplined your mind and mouth before, this can seem like a daunting task, but it isn’t. It’s simply creating new habits that can soon become as routine and flowing as the life you’re living now. You just have to want it, and if you don’t read this and hearken to the wisdom, then life will teach you the very same lesson the hard way.
It’s your choice when it comes to how you prefer to learn.