Which is a greater source of stress for you: the circumstances you’re facing, or the constant, tormenting thought that you could live, do, and be so much more? Is it the problems you’re currently dealing with, or is it the fact that you’ve longed for something greater for so many years, and you just can’t seem to get there?
Guess what? The stress is from your mind more than your circumstances; the anxiety is from the lack of fulfillment that torments you with frustration. Circumstances are temporary. Unfulfilled dreams stay with you always.
If You Want Your Circumstances to Change, Then Realize This…
Your two sources of stress are circumstances and the fact that you know you have unfulfilled potential, but the problem is that by focusing primarily on the circumstances—instead of your beliefs—you’re placing too much emphasis upon things outside of yourself when your focus should be on yourself. In other words, we want to change our circumstances, but we don’t recognize that we are often the first circumstance that needs changing!
How do I know this? I know it from the things I hear people say (Haven’t you ever heard the text, “Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks?”). People reveal their beliefs by their words and their actions, and what we often hear people say is, “It’ll all work out,” or, “If it was meant to be, it’ll happen,” or, “Life has a way of working things out.”
Nonsense! The life you want isn’t created by life itself—it’s created by your determination, and that’s what determination means. It’s “the process of establishing something exactly.”
The Life You Truly Want Doesn’t Happen to You
Why aren’t things “working out” for you? It’s because you believe that’s how things happen. When you say, “Things just aren’t working out for me,” it reveals a life philosophy that’s actually keeping you where you are, and you’ll never break free from it until you believe and accept that YOU have to work your life out!
The life you want doesn’t happen to you; you’re supposed to make it happen for you, and oftentimes, it’s your failure to act that is in itself the “action” that’s creating the circumstances you don’t like. In other words, doing nothing IS doing something, because it creates circumstances just as much as taking action does; and by making no decision to act, you’ve actually made the worst decision.
Take a look around you. Look at how our modern world has developed in terms of our technology, invention, and innovation. Consider everything from highways to telephones to televisions. Did these things just “happen” to us, or did people turn themselves inside and out over hundreds of years to bring us to this stage of history? Why do you think your life would be any different? Why do you believe your life is supposed to “work itself out?”
The Life You Don’t Want is the Life That Works Itself Out
Let me repeat myself. Your life isn’t working itself out, because the life you truly want doesn’t work itself out. The life you don’t want is the life that works itself out. You work out the life you want by continual action in the face of life’s resistance. Yes, resistance. Did you think life was just going to hand things to you? The only thing life will hand you is what you don’t want.
It’s your wrong belief about waiting for things to happen that’s holding you back from making things happen, and this fruitless philosophy is what we call fatalism—it’s the belief that “all events are predetermined and therefore inevitable.”
If you’re waiting on circumstances to create what can only be created by your efforts, you’re engaging in fatalism. You believe that God, the universe, or “the force,” is going to do all of this for you, so you don’t put in the effort to plan, act, and follow through on strategies that could bring you what you’ve always wanted.
Be the Cause That Creates the Kind of Effect That You Want
Am I suggesting you’re doing nothing at all about creating the life you want? No, I’m not. I’m sure you have put in some effort, but my point is that you haven’t released your full power on creating the life you want, and it’s not because you’re not able. It’s because of your deepest held beliefs, and one belief is fatalism.
Once you truly realize that it’s only your own determination that can create the life you want, you’ll finally start to unleash hell on your goals. It’s at that point that you’ll begin to disregard circumstances and people and become the primary force effecting the kind of changes you want in your life. Steve Jobs said it this way:
“The minute that you understand that you can poke life and actually something will—you know, if you push in, something will pop out the other side. That you could change it—you could mold it. That’s maybe the most important thing.”
Isn’t that what Steve Jobs did with Apple? Didn’t he change the world as we know it with Apple’s technology? It wasn’t something that just happened. It was the result of absolute determination. It was the result of a simple, yet powerful, philosophy that life can be changed—that it can be molded. The greatest things are the result of the belief that “if you push in, something will pop out on the other side.” It’s cause and effect, so your objective is to be the cause that creates the kind of effect that you want!