According to the American Psychological Association, the divorce rate in the U.S. is between 40%-50% with the failure rate for subsequent marriages being even higher.
Therefore, whether you’re married, or in a long-term relationship, there’s a 50% chance that yours is “on the rocks” right now. I would consider this a state of emergency.
When something is “on the rocks,” it’s experiencing difficulties and is likely to fail, but how could the failure rate be so high?
It’s Not the Big Things—It’s the Small Things
We all know that cheating can end a marriage, and so can abuse, but these are not the reason for the high divorce rate. In actuality, the reason is something simple.
It’s not “big things” that end relationships. It’s little things that accumulate over time, and this explains the high failure rate for relationships.
In other words, because our relationship problems come down to little things—such as neglect, being overly critical, not communicating, etc—we don’t do much about them. It’s like the difference between a slight headache and a migraine.
When Small Things Become One Big Thing
We don’t do much about the small irritations, and then we only take action when things get really bad. By then, it’s usually too late.
This is also why most long-term relationships have a long burn out rate. It’s like a slow death. The small things are now one big thing that we can’t live with anymore.
That’s what we’re discussing this week in this new 5-message series on Relationships on the Rocks. This is all being shown in my Life Domination Online Coaching Group, but I always post the first episode of each series here for free. Watch Episode 1 below.
If you’d like to join the Life Domination Online Coaching Program, you can learn about it here. It’s only $19.97 per month, and that provides you access to all the videos—as well as the archives of past teaching series—as well as an invitation to a private Facebook group where the videos are shown.
The best part is that you’ll be in that private group along with me and other committed people just like you. I can’t begin to tell you how encouraging it is. You’ll receive the daily support you’re looking for to help you create your best life.