Your feelings follow the direction of your consistent thoughts, and this is a powerful truth to understand because it means YOU can control your emotional state. Imagine the possibilities of being able to shift out of your usual gloominess into a more consistent feeling of domination just by directing your thoughts.
The reason why you may not have experienced this is because you haven’t directed your thoughts consistently. Don’t feel bad. It’s not an easy thing to do when you’re not used to the discipline. However, once you are accustomed to it, the possibilities are endless. Let me reveal to you how I do it.
Take Your Understanding Captive
Here’s my secret: my feelings follow the direction of my thoughts, but my thoughts can easily be directed by the words of my mouth. Thoughts—even when not spoken—are still articulate and understandable, so the key is take captive the process of your own understanding.
Understanding means the way you interpret something. It’s how you connect the dots of the world and your place in it. If your tendency is to be negative, it’s because you see every situation as working against you, or you see yourself as unable to overcome what confronts you.
For example, if something interrupts your plans, you might immediately say, “That always happens to me. I never get a break.” Really? You NEVER get a break? Or, are you only keeping in mind the times that situations don’t go your way and neglecting the times when they do?
Someone who exaggerates is someone who lives with a faulty understanding. The way they interpret what happens to them is distorted and it deeply affects the way they think, and therefore the way they feel.
Your Thoughts Will Follow Your Words
In order to change your own understanding—i.e., the way you interpret—you have to direct your own thoughts down new roads of interpretation. The best way to do this is to use your spoken words, because your mind is always taken captive by whatever it is you’re speaking. That’s why you can “get lost” in a conversation with someone. Your mind is taken captive by what you’re speaking.
If you become intentional about what you say, then you can become intentional about what you think. If you can become intentional about what you think, you can become intentional about how you feel. Your thoughts will follow the direction of your words.
Here’s what I recommend in order to alter your own emotional state. Remember, you’re not lying to yourself by speaking out what you want to believe. You’re simply changing the way you interpret.
- See your mind as a computer in need of a software change, and delete the idea that your present thoughts are reflective of the real YOU. They are not. Your thoughts are only reflective of how your mind is presently programmed, which is what you’re about to change.
- Start speaking to yourself what it is you want to believe about yourself. Even though what you’re saying may not be realized in your life at this point, you’re starting the process of personal transformation.
- When something negative happens—or you have a series of negative thoughts—immediately speak out loud how this can be turned into something positive.
- Put some emotion behind what you say. Move your body to emphasize the point and put force behind your words. Notice how your emotional state immediately responds.
- Be consistent. This is difficult when you’re trying to be intentional about something, but if you keep reminding yourself of the benefits, you’ll have a better chance of sticking with it.
What you say becomes what’s on your mind, and what’s on your mind controls the way that you feel. Speak bad ass, think bad ass, and you’ll feel bad ass. Metal up!
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