The Pain of Your Past Doesn’t Have to Shape Your Future

Are you ready to get started on the path to healing, or are you just going to sit there and bleed?

Pain is the absence of healing, and healing is when something is restored or made whole again. If you’re still feeling a great deal of emotional pain—even from something long ago—then there has never been any restoration for you.

You might be dealing with the pain better, but it still remains, and it continues to color everything that happens to you. It’s like wearing colored sunglasses where everything that you experience is tinted by what happened to you in the past.

Medication Will Only Medicate You

I do believe that it’s good to talk to someone about what’s happened to you—especially if what you experienced was severe. However, regardless of the level of your pain, there is only one way out of it, and it’s not talking about it.

Discussing it will help you understand it, but it can’t heal it. That’s why many sessions with psychiatrists can end up with you living on medication. Knowing why your mother abused you—e.g., her mother abused her—doesn’t remove the core, or root, of your personal pain. The medication only medicates you.

What’s the Root Cause of Your Pain?

What’s the root of your abiding pain? It’s injustice, and injustice is when you feel like you’re owed something for what happened to you. Any time I hear someone say, “It’s just not fair,” then I know they’re dealing with a sense of injustice.

When things are fair, they’re equal. There’s no imbalance between the two sides of the scale. When there is imbalance, we say, “It’s not fair,” and that’s injustice, because justice is equality before the law.

Your Pain is Healed by Restoration

You should talk to someone about your pain but understand that since the root of it is injustice, your restoration, or healing, cannot come from therapy or medication. Your restoration will come when something is restored to you.

Restore means to bring back, and if the person who caused your pain cannot, or will not, restore to you, then you have to do it yourself, and that means getting involved in personal development.

You have to restore to yourself what was lost by turning your pain into personal greatness. You bring healing by showing that you refuse to be permanently handicapped by the past and instead, you’re going maximize your gifts, talents, and abilities. In this way, you’re throwing some weight on the other side of the scales!

The Five Areas Personal Pain Affects

Most personal pain will affect you in any one, or combination of, these five areas:

1. Physical health
2. Mental health
3. Emotional health
4. Financial health
5. Vocational health

If any one of these areas is not doing well, it worsens your situation. The better you’re doing in any one of these areas, the better your situation. Why? Because you’re living out the fact that the past did not keep you from becoming the best you can be.

Where to Begin in Getting Past Your Pain

One of the first things I recommend to any one is to commit themselves to an intense exercise and diet program. Nothing will have an effect on you quicker than getting in shape. Visually you’re affected because you’re seeing yourself transform in the mirror, and physically you’re affected because your body starts releasing endorphins which are a form of morphine!

From there you can move on to your mental and vocational health because your emotional state is controlled by how you think and interpret what happens to you, and your financial state is controlled by what happens to you professionally.

Obviously, there’s a whole lot more that can be said about all this, but I just want to convey the basic idea that the only way out of pain is by restoration, or bringing back, what was taken from you.

Personal pain takes away from your future, and the only way to bring healing is by creating the future you want.

Are you ready to get started, or are you just going to sit there and bleed?